Diabetes, Food Addiction, Hypertension, Low-Carb Cruise, Low-Carb Diet, Nutrition, People Pleasing

A Year of Putting Myself First

20160519_170133000_iOSFood addiction, pre-diabetes, hypertension, people pleasing… sound familiar?  This is the kind of stuff I’ve been struggling with for years – some of these conditions I have had since childhood.

In the past 2 years I entered an eating disorder recovery center for several months, where I was officially diagnosed with a binge-eating disorder. After “graduating” I did a few more months of therapy, saw a nutritionist, and spent some time in OA.

While in recovery, I learned a lot of new skills to deal with life, emotions, people, and how to take time to take care of myself. Unfortunately, somehow the busyness of life took over again and old habits snuck back in…

Putting Myself First Again

For the next 12 months, I want to practice putting myself first again. This is not at all a selfish goal. For most of my life I wanted to make sure everyone around me was taken care of and ignored my own needs. I had a hard time saying no to others, even if I didn’t want to do, whatever it was they wanted. Food always made everything better, but only for a short time. Never mind that my way of dealing with negative emotions, stress, or life in general made me gain weight, got me depressed, and eventually ran my blood pressure and glucose levels up. In treatment I learned to be more assertive, feel my emotions without needing food, and how to take time for myself without feeling guilty. My goal is to build on these new skills, strengthen my recovery in the coming year, and share the practical things I’m doing to get peace back in my life with you by my side.

Make Life Amazing Again

In the coming year you will see posts about how to handle difficult situations as an introvert, how to get pre-diabetes and, hopefully, high blood pressure back in check, what to do when tempted to go on a full-blown binge, and finally how to relax in the evenings and weekends with feeding your soul and not so much your stomach.

In the meantime, you can read some of my older posts below. I’ve written about how a low-carb lifestyle has helped with my binges, even before I entered official treatment.

Now Your Turn…

Along the way, I’d love to hear about your stories, your struggles, your victories. How do you practice self-care to bring a few moments of sanity in your life? Is there a specific topic you’d like me to cover? Do you have any questions?

You can comment below or send me a private message via my contact page.

*** Remember, I can only share my own experience and cannot give you professional advice. I’ll leave that to the specialists. ***




Low-Carb Diet, People Pleasing

Sorry, can’t eat that!

Pasta is a feature of the Argentine cuisine
Pasta is a feature of the Argentine cuisine (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

What do you tell well-meaning people who offer you things that you can’t eat on your low-carb diet?  I’ve been on Atkins almost 2 months and I have people at work and in our little village offering things to me that I can’t eat.  Countless times I had to say “No thanks” to some wonderful things like black forest cherry cake, breaded chicken wings, french fries…etc, you get the point.

I’m starting to feel bad when I have to turn stuff down from my neighbors.  On Tuesday, we were invited to stop by for my neighbor’s birthday after work.  I was already starting to make dinner before walking over, but they said they had cooked for us and the other guests (must be a German thing) were waiting on us.  Just to be on the safe side, I ate a slice of salami before I left.  We walked to their house and a big table was set with family greeting us.  Then I saw a huge pot of spaghetti and tomato sauce sit on the table.

My first thought was: “Oh, oh.  How am I going to say no?”  So I just got it over with.  I nudged my neighbor and told her that I have to pass on dinner, but not to worry, I’d be fine.  Of course, her daughters, who are nurses, heard the conversation and started grilling me.  So I told them that I have to get my blood pressure down or I will have to be on medication again.  After a few minutes, the conversation was over.  I still felt a little awkward by not eating, but was really okay food-wise.

Later on everybody ate some cake.  I know I had to shoot it down as well, but I asked my hubby for a small bite just for a taste.  It was wonderful and I showered my neighbor with compliments!  This one bite was all I really needed, because the first bite is always the best anyway.  We still sat around and talked for a little while before going home.  What a nice evening!

Sometimes I get a little nervous when making special requests or when denying food that’s not good for me, but I’m getting used to it.  When I’m really hungry and we’re in town and food is not readily available, we stop at the Doener booth and get a Doener (like a gyros with a little spice and cabbage) and hubby eats the pita.  Or, like today, we walked by a bratwurst booth on a street fest and I ordered 2 little brats without the bun.  I told the guy at the grill that I cannot eat the bun and he was happy to put the brats in some foil.

So, trust me, it gets easier as you go along.  People may look at you funny if you eat your burger without a bun, but you’ll be the one not on meds or not having the weight issues anymore just a bit down the road.  I keep telling myself, that ultimately, I have to take care of myself.  Nobody can do that for me.  So, most of the time when people offer me some food I can’t eat, a little “no thanks” will do.

Other responses that worked for me are “Thank you, I’d love to but…

  • I’m still full from breakfast (lunch…)
  • I cannot have this (…for medical reasons).
  • Bread (flour, sugar) gives me a belly ache (or bad gas…hahaha – they’ll definitely leave you alone then).
  • I brought my lunch.
  • I already ate

“I’m on a diet” seems not to work out too well, because people still try to talk you into trying their goodies anyway, so I don’t really use that one.

I hope this gives you some ideas on how to keep people from pushing some food on you that you don’t want.

Until the next entry,